My Point of Heu
My master's degree is in communication, all of my life I have been in the service/hospitality or communication industry -- and there are a few things that I have noticed about people that never ceases to amaze and surprise me. I figured, I should write a blog about these things because I deal with them each and every day -- plus they are good reminders so you won't become frustrated, discouraged or disheartened in the future.
1. People Are Inherently Selfish - hey I get it you gotta look out for #1, even Mother Teresa said she is the "greediest person" because of the feeling of kindness that she felt -- overall no one is going to care about the things you care about more than you... and you can't expect them to either because their priorities are focused on making it through their day and their life.
2. Take The Easy Road - no matter how simple you can make something or even if you have completely spoon fed them, people will still do things based on what is easiest and most convenient for them. People like to do what saves time, energy and money and they will do things that are easier and provide that for them.
3. We're too reliant on Labels - when I was in Miss America people called me Miss Hawaii, when I was on the news people called me The News Lady, after that people didn't know what to label me so they went back to calling me a former Miss Hawaii - i was like "can't I just be Olena?" Why do we need a label to validate who we are and tell people what our worth is?
4. Empty Promises - I can always tell when someone is going to flake or if they temporarily make plans by saying "maybe" or "might," if you don't want to do something say you can't or won't be able to do something. Don't just say it or put it out there if you had no intention of following through. Maybe we can have happy hour on Wednesday or Lets try have dinner next week -- usually doesn't pan out and nothing happens so it's honestly just a waste of words.
5. Friends Flow - many many years ago I heard that friends flow in and out of your life. This is so very true, you have friends in different stages of your life and most of the time they are based on your activities, actions and those friends with common interests and who like to do the same things. Once your life changes (marriage, children, moving) your friends will change too. For some, they still have the same friends from childhood (often their lives are parallel) but for others it just flows and depends on where you are in your life right now. So don't be afraid to let it flow and let it go too!
Wow, 2018 sure did have its peaks and valleys!!
I cried really hard, loved even harder, laughed until my stomach hurt and realized I can no longer drink wine/sake/champagne anymore (it literally makes me sick, some kind of allergic reaction or something)!
I can honestly say that looking back, 2018 was filled with some truly treasured memories, amazing explorations and once in a lifetime opportunities.
As we move forward into 2019, it's important to me to be forever grateful, mindful, kind and truly live this life and each day as if it was your last. One thing I have learned, and reiterated in my mind, was to live without regret, take those chances and opportunities you wanted to take and don't hold back. Time here on Earth is short and we need to do what we can to maximize every second of each and every amazing day.
Here's a look at the highlights of 2018 - from My Point of Heu of course!
Feeling any of these lately: anxious, irritable, short-tempered, agitated, worried or stressed? They say the holidays, while the most wonderful time of the year, can also be a very stressful and uneasy time of year. People are rushing, time is ticking and there's a lot going on. In recent years I have started to feel a sense of unease. It's hard to describe, almost like nervousness paired with agitation and sprinkled with irritability. I am not sure why this is happening and it came on all of the sudden. Sometimes I would try to remind myself to breathe, take a moment, do yoga, meditate and relax... But my mind is going, my phone is pinging and there's so much to do. You have to convince yourself to make time to have 'me time' and be sure to get enough rest/sleep, eat healthy, get exercise and surround yourself with positive and uplifting people... but sometimes you can't do all those things or make time for them. So, I decided to visit the neighborhood Down To Earth - Organic and Natural Products store in an attempt to find some all-natural remedies. (Disclaimer: I am not a physician and if you feel anything is life threatening and you are in danger - please go to the doctor).
The Kakaako Down To Earth Organic and Natural Product Store, is really convenient and they have free or validated parking. The associates are so friendly, well educated/informed and really made me feel comfortable explaining my situation. They have an abundance of natural remedies and options.
Here's what I tried:
Anxie-T by LifeSeasons a combination of roots and other supplements these capsules are aimed at calming and nourishing the nervous system.
Calm A.S.A.P. by gaia HERBS is made using a selection of natural flowers and is supposed to help reduce anxiousness.
Aromatherapy Room & Body Mist - Relaxing Lavender by Aura Cacia is made from flowering lavender oil and water.
Nu Leaf CBD oil - made from Hemp non-psychoactive cannabinoid oil (does not cause a high) is supposed to help with pain, inflammation and relaxation.
When needed, I would try the supplements individually. I would often not take a full dose and just do a half dose to see how it was. Then as time progressed I would try taking the full dose. I separately utilized the different natural products and overall felt a more relaxed feeling and was less on edge. The one that I believe worked the best by far was the CBD oil, of which I had heard a lot about but had never tried before. I also did some research prior to application. Essentially I found that the CBD oil was extremely helpful in allowing me to feel more myself, less irritable and more at ease. I would find myself singing in the car while driving, not as anxious and I also had a better mood with less grouchiness feeling.
In the end... if you feel like battling that bad mood has become harder and harder these days...I would recommend these helpful tips to ensure peace of mind, body and soul:
1. Get enough sleep
2. Eat fresh fruits, vegetables and drink a lot of water
3. Exercise (try walking more, take the stairs, go to a fitness class, or visit the beach or park)
4. Visit your local health food store and ask them for suggestions
5. Go to the doctor, chat with a therapist, meditate
6. Think positive thoughts, be around positive people and get out and do something fun
For more information on Down To Earth - visit https://www.downtoearth.org/
**Consult your physician, I am not a doctor and these are just my impressions and helpful tips, products provided by Down To Earth.
A fairly new kid on the Kaimuki block, Restaurant XO now sits in the former spot of an old Waialae Avenue Chinese restaurant, with all new decor, a brand new dining room, art installations, fresh tables and chairs, along with a brand spanking new bar - this place is sure to be the next hot spot. I featured them in my summer edition of Hawaii.com's Best New Restaurants - for the summer months 2018, if you wanna take a look.
Now on to the review... I may dare to say this is my new favorite new restaurant. First and foremost, the menu is a blend of contemporary, ingenious and inventive as it blends a menagerie of diverse flavors, ingredients and local comfort foods. At first glance you'll spot items like Spam, Adobo, Lup Cheong and Crispy Rice, but look closer and you'll find Buratta, Black Truffle, Sous Vide Duck, Cured Egg Yolk and fine Caviar. How do these un-seemingly unrelated ingredients come together? Beautifully. In a nut shell they compose dishes that are exquisitely delicious, perfectly cooked and immensely familiar. Price points are $9-$26, so while you're eating what looks, tastes and feels like ultra fine dining you're still enjoying something that is relatively moderate in price. Add to that the extremely generous portion sizes, as these items are also prepared family-style so sharing is a must, and this is an experience all its own.
Since taking over the space in the summer of 2018 they jumped over hurdles and lept over speed bumps, now after a renovation and investing thousands of dollars into new equipment, decor and more the restaurant has a look, feel and vibe all its own and it is worth checking out for sure.
Here are some new items along with some delicious favorites.
I LOVED the Buratta with Proscuitto and Tomato Jam, Lemongrass Sausages, Loaded Potato Au Gratin, Tomato Risotto, Adobo Fried Chicken and Buttermilk Shiso Fried Chicken, Fried Bass, Sous Vide Duck, Seared Steak and XO Scallops. The Brown Butter Chocolate Chip Cookie Ala Mode is addicting!
On a recent trip to Japan I was walking down the street in Shinjuku when I stumbled upon a cafe. This is not an ordinary cafe as there are pets in the windows. I had visited an animal cafe before in Thailand that featured many exotic animals (foxes, raccoon, etc), dogs and cats but this one in Japan was exclusively for bunnies!
I have a thing for bunnies and rabbits because honestly, I love anything that is furry. I opted to pay $25 for an hour of time to be able to hold, cuddle and pet as many bunnies as my heart desired and here's what it was like...
First off you walk up the stairs to an exclusive bunny floor one other floor had cats. There you are greeted by a worker who asked you to take off your shoes and gives you a blanket to hold. Then she shows me the cubby-holes with a broad range of breeds, ages and genders to choose from. I of course went for the largest and fluffiest bunny first.
The cafe is quiet with light music, it is clean and while the bunnies are in moderate sized cages they have food, water and hay. The greeter also let some out to run around and let me hold the first bunny. Some of the bunnies were a bit hard to get to sit still while others just sat there. I am an animal lover so of course I wouldn't want to make an animal do something it didnt want to do, so if it wanted to roam freely and didn't want to be held then I would let it go.
There was another bunny that had small babies and the worker put them all in a basket and presented them to me. I got to hold 2 baby bunnies while the others attempted to run around on the floor. They were so cute and they barely knew how to walk, hop and scoot around with their soft legs and furry feet.
Overall the experience went by extremely fast and all of the bunnies were very kind and loving. One that I was interested in was known to bite so I opted not to hold him. I believe included in the fee is a drink, but I opted not to have one since all I wanted to do was hold, pet and play with the animals.
On a trip and you forget something... uh oh, don't worry you don't have to go to the store unnecessarily. I have found some super easy hacks to make your travels easier and cheaper. First and foremost - did you leave behind the hair gel or hair spray? No worries this is something you might already have in your bag or at least in your hotel bathroom. Then you have something stuck in your tooth and you wished you had a tooth pick or some dental floss, well this is a great contraption that does both. Also what do you do with your dirty underwear or your wet items and you don't have a plastic bag? Check out this common hotel room hack. Lastly my special hack that has saved me dozens of times if when my dress is wrinkled and I need to get it ironed, but I don't have one and a steamy shower won't do the trick, check this one out its great!
Got another simple and easy hack - comment below!
Over the course of my life I have witnessed a resounding theme -- some of the major careers and professions I have held included me being demoted, targeted and ostracized by other women in power. I can recall working at a long time job when a new manager came in and she immediately demoted me, at another high profile job a brand new female manager was at the helm and she would criticize, critique and try to constantly filter me, recently another woman of power (who doesn't know me personally at all) has gone to upper management to complain and accuse me of aloof and uncongenial behavior (which couldn't be further from the truth).
I am reminded of the time several years ago, when I was a featured speaker/panelist at a women's event - I said something profound and it resonated with the audience -- I mentioned that the one thing holding women back in the workforce was other women. This was so prolific that after the panel concluded other women were waiting in line to chat with me about the comment and many agreed, I was also not invited back to the event.
I am motivated to write this blog because I have seen a trend in many work environments that leads me to believe that strong women aren't all that strong, instead they are insecure, and thus use their power to intimidate other women around them. Looking back I would have appreciated a one-on-one talk about why a decision was made, and encouragement to help me achieve and accomplish my goals, also if someone is unavailable for you to be social with it can't be solely my fault since this is a two-way street.
Overall it is all about communication and support, why can't women focus on being uplifting, supportive and encouraging instead of always competing. If you want to address something - say something, if you don't like something then say how you can improve and if someone isn't engaging with you take the time to engage and get to know them - don't stab them in the back and complain to someone else then pretend you never said anything and sit in the corner. Be proactive and be a leader.
I first jumped on the social media bandwagon back in 2001, then I started blogging close to a decade ago... And as we have progressed to a life online, finding the perfect song to accompany your photos, videos and slideshows can be challenging. I would search the internet for royalty free music and have paid for permission to utilize tracks for some of my videos and posts...when a Hawaii resident approached me with the greatest idea... How about supporting local people, local musicians and local businesses with locally sourced music?!
Welcome VYNL an online resource providing local music for creators like myself! VYNL is a Hawaii-based music company created by artists and musicians to provide high quality music, accompaniment and content. Creator Brett Robinson is quite the talented guru when it comes to composition, scoring, creating and more. "VYNL is home to music from many local artists from different musical backgrounds and where businesses can easily license music for their marketing content," Robinson said.
"It's our mission to help support our extremely talented local artists and musicians, provide great service and connect Hawaii businesses of all shapes and sizes to music that meshes perfectly with their brands identity."
What's wrong with taking a song you love, downloading it from the internet and using it for your online posts, podcasts, YouTube, Facebook, IG and more? Well you may have noticed that these platforms may attempt to block you if you're using copy-written music, infact I can detect when you're using someone else's tracks and will remove your video if you don't have the licensing rights.
This can lead to a very sticky situation and I have found VYNL to be the best resource for me and I am also supporting local. "VYNL started from the need to connect two communities. Hawaii's businesses in need of music for their marketing content and its music makers.Local companies are effectively becoming their own marketing agencies through social media. And video is the go-to medium that has the most reach. But many don't know they must first obtain a sync license to attach music to their videos or they may find themselves in court for copyright infringement. I didn't want to see that happen. But where were they gonna get this music?
VYNL was the solution to two problems. Music licensing sites not having a good selection of local Hawaii music and Hawaii not having its own music licensing platform for its artists and music makers."
Having this resource is very exciting and I must say it's even better when Brett can create custom music for my custom videos. They are impeccable. Generally to purchase recorded tracks/music online will cost you anywhere from $50-$200 a song, VYNL starts at $40 and has great variety, excellent quality and the perfect tunes for our island life.
Looking for the right tune for your short clip? You can choose from your choice of style, vibe, mood, instrument or 60 seconds or less.
Additionally local artists are also featured:
Jim "Kimo" West
Jules Washington and many more to come by 2019.
"VYNL is home to music from many local artists from different musical backgrounds and where businesses can easily license music for their marketing content."
Visit www.VYNL.SHOP and check it out.
As a girl on the go, I often don't have time (or much room) for a lot of makeup. Overall I actually never wear makeup unless I absolutely have to. I discovered I only needed 7 items to create my full face and I could use these same 7 products for a day look and night look.
Here's a short tutorial on how to create a simple, pretty, fresh, beautiful face using products you probably already have in your makeup bag. *Note: I am not sponsored by any beauty products or makeup line so I am just showcasing the items I already have and use, this is not an endorsement - although I do need to go to the drug store and purchase some eye liner and new lashes since I realized I am running out now LOL
**Also the lighting in the bathroom is terrible, I should've just done the whole video in natural light, but I am showing you exactly how I get ready and just how simple and easy it is.
As a world traveler, many people ask for my travel highlights. I've been to many places -- from Paris to New Zealand to across Asia and Mexico -- I have had my fair share of wonderful travels, great adventures and numerous memories. So, I decided to list a few places that I believe are the top 3 on my must-see, must-visit list.
The first thing you will notice about Japan is how well developed, organized and courteous the people are. The city is buzzing with excitement meanwhile, the country is beautiful, vibrant and majestic. The work ethic is unlike anything I have ever seen before and while the community is very polite, the cities are very clean and the food is also affordable.
I began traveling to Japan when I was Miss Hawaii, I recall going there around 8 times... which is funny because I don't speak Japanese nor do I dance the hula. One time I kind of faked me way through a hula routine at a mall and I swear there were people watching and cringing. Anyway, as you know the Japanese love Hawaii and as a kama'aina born and raised I also love the Japanese. You can get the most amazing bowl of ramen for $9, spend all your days shopping and exploring --- and still have time to make friends, sing karaoke and dance the night away.
The people truly make Japan a wonderful place, they are so selfless, accommodating and sincere. Make it a point to go to Japan - perhaps in the spring (Cherry Blossoms) or fall.
To be honest, I didn't know too much about Singapore when I made my way there. I heard they had harsh punishments for breaking the law and something about gum being banned and etc. But I found Singapore to be delightful, extremely colorful and diverse along with a great sense of community and culture.
Formerly governed by the British, they are essentially asians who speak with the most charming accents. The country was created to host a broad range of ethnicities, the infrastructure is brilliantly sound and the focus on environmental impact is inspiring. You'll find people from all walks of life here and the innovation in technology and education is pronounced.
Singapore is extremely clean, like I mean you could probably eat a meal off the seats in the public transportation clean. You also fee quite safe here, as you also feel in Japan. And lastly the food was also amazing here. i felt like there was great influence from France, Asia and Malay so you get a good mix of classic dishes and the ethnic enhancements from surrounding influence.
I've always loved Australia! For one the people speak English, number two the value of our dollar can be better (depends on the exchange rate), and their weather is similar to Hawaii just opposite -- their winter is our summer and vice versa. The people are also extremely friendly and there's a lot to see, do and experience.
Australia is huge - I've only been to Sydney and Bisbane but I loved the beaches, the activities and of course the food and adventures. Do go and see the animals at the zoo, do experience the various museums and amusement parks and do adventure to the botanical gardens and the typical list of sights to see.
Overall, Australia would be the place I would move to if I couldn't live in Hawaii. I enjoy the culture, the history and the climate. You feel a great sense of community, serenity and hospitality there. One of the times I was in Sydney it rained for most of the time I was there but we still enjoyed each day and saw the sights in the rain and even caught a train so we could hold koalas. The community there is very trendy, stylish and progressive which is refreshing as well.