My Point of Heu
8/27/2019 14 Comments
So far, 2019 has been a year full of momentous memories, great accomplishments and life changing decisions.
After my choice to have a preventative bilateral mastectomy without reconstruction in the spring... My life focus took a new direction. Loved ones encouraged me to share my story and said that it would no-doubt help a lot of people. Most got the story right, while some misunderstood the details or heard minor inaccuracies.
1. My decision was preventative and thankfully I did not have cancer. Once my breast tissue was removed pathology checked and found no signs of cancer cells. I made this decision with the hopes that I would prevent breast cancer from occurring. There was a brief scare last summer but it was not cancerous.
2. I removed my natural breasts. All of my life I had never had a surgery before and some might have assumed that I had breast implants and thus had the implants removed, this is not correct. My breasts were real and I opted to have them removed without having anything else put in... So my chest is now flat without any breast tissue, or implants and no plans for future reconstruction. I know I've inspired many women with breast implants to seek having them removed due to other reasons and I applaud you, but I am not fully aware of this situation except to say that I believe you know in your heart what is best for your body.
3. I've become an advocate... I am not an expert when it comes to cancer, I didn't have cancer. My aunt, mother and grandmother had breast cancer, but that definitely does not make me an authority on the subject. I am open to sharing my insights, experiences and thoughts, but if you have any serious concerns or need medical advice you should see a doctor. I am kind of finding my way in this new role as a breast cancer advocate and I hope you will continue to join me on this journey of awareness and prevention.
I have been immensely uplifted by the 100% positive outpouring of love and support everyone has shone and shared with me. The aloha and positivity has been tremendous and I can't thank you all enough. With that... I think after spending 3 months recovering, somewhat isolated and unable to live my normal fast-paced and active lifestyle.., I felt uneasy. It's hard to describe but it was almost as though I felt I was holding myself to a higher standard and unsure of who I am now.
Yes, I underwent a major surgery. And, I am the same person, but initially I felt uncertain of how people would look at me, perceive me and how to view myself. Often I try to give myself pep talks and analyze what kind of advice would I give to someone like me? I know that I must be who I am and who I have always been. I need to show others that I am the same and I don't need to change. Luckily, I am back to my old habits and able to do everything I was able to do before. My personality is the same (I hope) and I am enjoying the activities that I love. The only things that have changed are: I lost a little bit of weight on my chest, I am more cognizant of what clothing appears flattering on my body and I never have to wear a bra again!
At times you need to find yourself to be able to build your confidence back up. During those challenging times is when you really can pinpoint what makes you tick, what you enjoy and who you are. Sometimes your mind makes things larger than they really are and you have to just realize that you're doing the best you can and need to take it one step at a time.
Sometimes you have to lose yourself a little to find yourself again.
8/27/2019 05:52:05 pm
Breathe, just breathe. It'll all fall into place in its own time. Trust yourself, your family, your friends...
8/27/2019 06:05:23 pm
Some leaders are born to lead, others take decades of leadership training and often never achieve the status of being a great leader or even a good leader. There are warriors who train all their lives but never get to fight. Then there are warriors who lead the fight. You may not see yourself as either but you are both a great leader and a brave warrior. It's easy to get on FB and engage in comments with the internet handy. As a local celebrity willing to share with such inspiration and courage is rare and welcoming. You give hope and aloha. Mahalo nui.
8/27/2019 06:07:09 pm
You are so inspiring and even more, you are providing much needed knowledge about being a previvor!
8/27/2019 06:11:23 pm
Nothing but Love and utter Admiration for my beautiful and awesome Sistah...
8/27/2019 07:42:20 pm
Olena, you are such an inspiration to me! I admire your courage and strength. You are able to share yourself with others giving us hope and understanding. Relax and breathe. You are so very very special. Mahalo! ❤❤❤
8/27/2019 09:30:40 pm
Olena I have alway admire you from the beginning you are such an inspiration to everyone women on the planet and I do support Breast Cancer Awareness because both my aunt and a very dear friend of lost there life to breast cancer. Much Love and Mahalo.
8/27/2019 11:15:37 pm
Good bless you, Olena.
8/27/2019 11:31:54 pm
Aloha Olena: You are an inspiration to many. Your strength gives others strength. God created you. You are perfect. You are the apple of his eye. Just know how much God loves you. Trust the process. You are his testimony. You are beyond BEAUTIFUL to all of us. I always admired you on the news. You're AMAZING. MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU.
LOVE this. You are an inspiration to others. Many others who will greet you in public and the many many more silent ones that will read and nod their heads in agreement, or will be moved to have their own checkups done. Itʻs funny, when I went to surgery for my cancer, itʻs like a little bit of you "leaves" as well. But your left with an exhilarating feeling of wanting to tackle the world and see what lies ahead, and you tackle with "gusto". You are truly amazing and I cannot wait to give you a hug in person. Thank you for being you, and letting all of us in your personal space to share you triumphs and smiles and to hug you when you need. LOVE!!
9/21/2019 01:04:04 pm
Billy, thank you so much for sharing your strength and insight... I am touched and moved by your faith and courage. I really appreciate your support too. Mahalo nui loa, my apologies for the tardy reply as well. All my love and hugs!
8/28/2019 08:52:40 am
Again, thank you for for sharing your experience and journey. Reading each word. Be well.
8/28/2019 08:29:04 pm
You are a class act. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Stay beautiful as always ❤️
8/28/2019 10:28:48 pm
I’ve always admired you on TV but now I truly admire you for not only sharing your story but being the incredible woman that I can only hope to become. God Bless you in this amazing journey and as always keep smiling.
12/19/2020 02:39:47 pm
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