I am going to be very transparent and very honest here. Unfortunately, I don't blog as much as I used to, and I think it's because I am actually working and enjoying life, so I don't make the time. But something has been weighing on my mind, and I feel like since this is kind of a hidden journal, I can use this platform to say something and get it out there without it actually getting out there, heard.

Growing up as an only child to a single parent, I always longed for a big family. One of my priorities in life was to make people feel special, especially on their birthday. I kept a calendar with people's birthdays, and every year I would update it and manually write in all the birthdays on the flipped calendar on the wall. People would be so impressed because each and every year, no matter what, if we had spoken in ten years or not, I would send a text or call and say happy birthday.

The year is 2018, and my world crumbled. My mom died on Kauai during one of the most devastating storms in recent history, and I was on the island for about a year picking up the pieces and cleaning everything up. It was after that moment that I realized some people are there for you, some people don't know what to do, and some people will opt to disappear. When someone dies, it is already a really painful and hard process to endure, and when someone dies and leaves you with a huge amount of literal and figurative mess to clean up, it is exhausting.

I had an epiphany. I was going to throw away that birthday calendar, and I was not going to focus on the people who didn't reach out and offer some form of support, love, or kindness. I just dropped everyone. But there are some really great people who stood by me, came forward, and just chimed in here and there to offer words of love and support. I took note! Those people who left me hanging, abandoned me, or decided not to be my friend anymore because they were too selfish just fell by the wayside. I am not saying they purposefully did it, but I noticed that a lot of these people didn't want to bother me, felt insulted by me, or just didn't know what to do, so they did nothing.

Fast forward another year. It is April 2019, and I elected to undergo a preventative double mastectomy to try and reduce my risk of breast cancer. Now, the feedback from this was really interesting. Some unfollowed me online, some blocked me, and some just completely disappeared. I was trying to think of why, and I think it was because they were offended that I didn't tell them about this decision. They didn't know, so they were hurt, and those people decided to end the relationship.

What's interesting to me is when you look at this, it is very one-sided. You were offended or you were hurt, and you decided to disappear. Thus, the disintegration of communication leads to a breakdown in a relationship, lack of communication, and lack of altruism, which means to care for someone, or unselfishly care for someone without regard for yourself. Everyone was looking at how it impacted themselves, and that meant isolating me and leaving me. Which is fine. Because then the real meaningful people stepped up and were there.
So why am I writing this? Because I look back at my life, and I see you. I see the people who were there, and I see your motivation. If you are gone now and we are not connected, why is that? Is it because I stopped calling? I stopped texting you on your birthday? I didn't respond? I didn't do something you wanted? How one-sided is that?

Communication is a path that involves many routes and many opportunities to correspond, and if the communication is just one way, then eventually that doesn't last. In this world of social opportunity, you can see there are so many ways to communicate, and it is everything from mail, email, phone calls, texts, social media, etc. If there are 10 methods to communicate and you are not doing any of them, then the communication will disintegrate, and life just moves on.

The way I feel now is that I will reach out when I am thinking of someone. I do make the extra effort for those who were there for me back in the '90s, early 2000s, 2010s, 2018, and on. People come and go, and since I don't really have family, I just take it with a grain of salt because things will change unless the two-way street is active.

People seem to be offended that the communication on my end stopped but while they didn't keep it going it just ended completely. So if one party is responsible for the entire relationship that is what happens it literally just goes away. 

Ultimately, I think this is what life has taught me: people come and go, and sometimes you don't really understand why. But I've learned to pay attention to who shows up, who makes an effort, and who is there when life gets hard. I will always reach out when I'm thinking of someone, and I will always appreciate the people who have been part of my life, whether that was 30 years ago or yesterday. But relationships can't survive on one person doing all the reaching out. At some point, the two-way street has to go both ways.

I've led an interesting life - often alone, often challenged, now I reap the rewards from hard work and perseverance - if you are not here to enjoy it with me, than I am ok with that. 

(Personal note, since people read into things way too much, my husband Daniel is my 100% rock and is with me 100% of the time so he is of course my forever soulmate and I am never really alone with him. Just in case some people want to try and assume weird things.) 

For the past year, I’ve felt a pull toward something I couldn’t quite find.
A sense of belonging. Community. Sisterhood. A place where women come together not just to network, but to connect. To build real relationships. To spend time doing things that actually fill you up.
I kept looking for it. Groups with workshops, brunches, hikes, happy hours. Spaces that felt intentional but still easy. Structured, but not rigid.
What I found instead felt… close, but not quite right.
There are networking groups, but I’m not necessarily looking to exchange business cards. I’m looking to exchange energy, stories, support. There are social clubs, but some have gone quiet, and others come with annual fees or attendance expectations that make it feel more like an obligation than a joy.
I don’t want something that feels transactional. I want something that feels alive.
A space for women who want to be empowered, informed, active. A space that encourages growth but also laughter. That gives back to the community. That makes you feel better when you leave than when you arrived.
Something rooted in connection, not pressure.
And maybe the reason I haven’t found it… is because I’m meant to create it.

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Set against the breathtaking backdrop of Kapalua, the resort is a haven where Hawaiian heritage, natural beauty, and world-class service come together. Whether you’re dreaming of poolside relaxation, a spa day, or outdoor adventure, this exclusive kamaʻāina package was designed to give locals an elevated experience without the extra fees.

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A Taste of Luxury: The Capital Grille Comes to Hawai‘i
Hawai‘i’s dining scene just welcomed a new star. Known nationwide for its elegant atmosphere, world-class wine list, and signature dry-aged steaks, The Capital Grille has officially opened its doors in Waikīkī. This new addition brings a refined option for locals and visitors alike who want more than just a meal — they want an experience.

What Makes The Capital Grille Special
The Capital Grille is synonymous with sophistication. Stepping inside, you’re immediately greeted with warm mahogany paneling, soft lighting, and a classic steakhouse feel that’s both timeless and inviting. The restaurant is designed for celebrations, romantic dinners, and milestone moments — the kind of place where service is as important as the food.
At the heart of the menu are dry-aged steaks, meticulously aged in-house for 18 to 24 days, resulting in a flavor and tenderness that’s hard to match. Complementing the steaks is a carefully curated wine list, with hundreds of bottles ranging from approachable pours to rare vintages. It’s the kind of collection that invites exploration, whether you’re a wine enthusiast or just looking for the perfect pairing.

What to Expect on the Menu
The new Hawai‘i location delivers the same classics that have made The Capital Grille beloved across the country, along with a few touches designed to fit the islands.

• Steaks & Entrées: From the bone-in ribeye to sliced filet mignon with specialty toppings, the menu leans into bold flavors and refined presentations.
• Seafood: Fresh catches like seared tuna and shellfish towers add variety for those who want something lighter.
• Signature Sides: Decadent favorites such as lobster mac & cheese, Parmesan truffle fries, and creamed spinach round out the meal.
• Desserts: Don’t skip the house-made cheesecakes or flourless chocolate cake — indulgent, but worth every bite.

Why This Location Matters
Bringing The Capital Grille to Hawai‘i offers more than just another dining option. It elevates the local fine-dining scene by introducing a steakhouse experience rooted in precision and luxury. For locals, it’s a new place to mark special occasions; for visitors, it’s a chance to enjoy a mainland favorite while surrounded by the beauty of Waikīkī.
The restaurant also adds a new layer of choice for business dinners, upscale date nights, and gatherings where atmosphere matters just as much as the menu. With its refined service and dedication to detail, it’s set to become a go-to destination for anyone looking to make a meal memorable.

Tips for Dining at The Capital Grille

• Reservations are recommended — especially for dinner and weekends.
• Dress code: Business casual works best; think neat, stylish, and polished.
• Wine pairings: Don’t hesitate to ask the staff for recommendations — the expertise here is part of the experience.
• Lunch option: If offered, visiting during lunch hours provides a more relaxed way to explore the menu.

The arrival of The Capital Grille in Hawai‘i brings a new level of culinary refinement to the islands. With its impeccable service, carefully crafted menu, and luxurious setting, it’s more than just a steakhouse — it’s a celebration of dining itself. Whether you’re raising a glass for a milestone moment or simply indulging in a perfectly cooked steak, The Capital Grille promises to make it unforgettable.

Bringing Maui Home: Kalei’s Lunchbox in Lahaina
If you’re looking for food that tastes like home, full of aloha, and rooted in Maui traditions — Kalei’s Lunchbox in Lahaina is that place. Nestled in the Lahaina Cannery Mall, it offers more than just a meal: it brings you a connection to community, culture, and comfort.

A Bit of History & What Makes It Special
Kalei’s Lunchbox has evolved quite a bit over the years. The story begins with a food truck (2016-2022) and then grew into brick-and-mortar spots—Pukalani, Maui Lani, Wailuku—each location with its own flavor and heart, but always with the same roots. 
The Lahaina location, which opened in mid-2025 at the Cannery Mall, represents a circle completed for the owners. Lahaina is where Chef Aaron “Kalei” Heath has deep personal ties, making this branch more than just another restaurant—it’s a homecoming. 

What the Lahaina Location Offers
Here are some of the features that stand out:

• Hours & Meals All Day: Open daily from 7 a.m. to 8 p.m. serving breakfast, lunch, and dinner. 
• Menu Favorites & New Twists: You’ll find classic plate lunches—think Mochiko Chicken, Mahi Ala Kalei, loco moco—and also special fusion items exclusive to Lahaina. 
• “Cheap Eats”: A rotating special priced at about $7 to keep things budget-friendly. Great if you want to try something new without spending a lot. 
• Themes & Ambience: Each Kalei’s location has a theme. Lahaina’s is Lei—emphasizing aloha, connection, beauty. The space is designed to be welcoming, warm, Maui-centric. 

What It’s Like Eating There
From what reviews and locals say:

• Generous portions. You’ll leave satisfied. 
• Friendly, down-to-earth service. Staff are proud of their place and it shows. 
• Authentic flavors. The food isn’t trying to be exotic — it is exotic in its rootedness: mac salad, local style grindz, aloha in each bite. 

Why Kalei’s Matters
Kalei’s is more than just a fill-up spot. It holds significance for Lahaina for several reasons:

• Community Healing & Rebuilding: After hard times (in recent years for Maui), places like this contribute to resiliency—not just by creating jobs and bringing normalcy, but by cultivating a sense of togetherness. The owners explicitly speak about serving the community and “reconnection.” 
• Preserving Local Food Culture: Hawaiian plate lunches, mochi chicken, local specialities—Kalei’s helps keep those flavors alive, especially for people who grew up with them.
• Accessibility & Value: Having rotating “cheap eats,” generous dinners, etc., helps maintain access. It’s not a luxury joint; it’s meant for everyone who wants a taste of island food without breaking the bank.

What to Try First
​If I were you, arriving hungry and wanting to get the lay of the land, here’s what I’d order:

• Mochiko Chicken — a staple, crispy, crunchy, beloved.
• Mahi Ala Kalei — something local & fresh.
• A plate lunch combo so you can mix local sides (mac salad, rice) with protein and try a few of their offerings.
• For breakfast—if open early—something hearty to start the day, maybe one of their plate lunch breakfast combos (if available) or items that are specific to breakfast there.

Things to Know Before You Go

• Location: Lahaina Cannery Mall, 1221 Honoapiʻilani Hwy., Suite A-1. 
• Theme & Vibe: Expect aloha, but expect good food, clean atmosphere, comfortable. If you’re used to boutique cafés, this is more “local café + plate lunch” with warmth.
• Price: Mid-range for Maui local style. Specials help bring things down.

Final Thoughts- Kalei’s Lunchbox in Lahaina isn’t just another eatery—it’s a place where flavor meets roots. For visitors wanting to taste Maui beyond tourist-menus, and for locals wanting something that feels like home, it hits the sweet spot. Next time you’re in Lahaina, skip the chain restaurant and let Kalei’s feed your ʻōpū and your spirit. They have awesome eats, delicious sweet treats and lots of aloha!

A lot of you may know that I help with the Made in Hawai‘i Festival. This was my 5th year and since last year my role has expanded to include all the PR, marketing, advertising, media and spokesperson duties. For some reason last year was great and fairly painless. With it being the 30th anniversary coverage was easy and it was really gratifying and immensely successful. 

Each year there are complaints and there are a lot of comments about the lines. But this year it was tremendous to see thousands of people line up and wait in line from Friday 1am, Saturday 9:30pm the night before and Sunday 2am - waiting in line to get in. As most know if they watched the news or went on social media anytime from 8/15 to now, there has been a lot of chatter and backlash about it. Being the spokesperson for the festival, my name is also now being dragged through the mud. Unfortunately it does take its toll. People make the choice to wait in line and make the choice to complain. No matter how many times we say the line cleared by a certain time, or there was no line if you came later, it is still my responsibility to take the feedback. 

So with that I decided to post some tips on how to deal with the negativity being thrust upon me during this time.

A couple things to keep in mind:

1. The lines are a symptom of success, not failure. People camped overnight because the festival is that beloved. It doesn’t feel good when the frustration gets directed at you, but underneath the complaints is proof of how much people want to be a part of it.
2. The media loves a simple headline. “Festival blames customers” is way spicier than “festival lines were long but fixed by afternoon.” They chose a narrative. That doesn’t mean you actually said that, and most reasonable people will know that.
3. FB comments are a magnifying glass, not a mirror. The loudest voices are rarely the majority. You’re seeing 600+ likes and some harsh comments, but thousands of attendees had a wonderful time and aren’t posting. It doesn’t mean you failed — it means the vocal minority is loudest right now.
4. It’s okay to regret talking to the news — but it doesn’t make you wrong. You were doing your job, addressing public concern. Transparency is part of being a spokesperson. If anything, it shows leadership, even if it feels raw now.

AFFIRMATIONS

🌺 You created something massive and meaningful. Thousands of people connected, small businesses made real money, and culture was celebrated. That doesn’t vanish because a few folks complained online.
🌺 Negativity often screams louder than gratitude. Most attendees don’t run to Facebook to say, “Wow, that was awesome!” They just go home happy. The handful who post complaints can feel bigger than they are.
🌺 It’s natural to feel deflated after something big. A lot of event organizers and spokespeople go through this “afterglow + crash” cycle. You’ve been running on adrenaline, now the body and mind are processing all the pressure and criticism at once.

THE NEGATIVITY IS ALL TEMPORARY. 

Lei as Therapy: A Personal Journey Rooted in Kaua‘i
Born and raised on the island of Kaua‘i, I was surrounded by beauty — not just in the landscape, but in the traditions and people who shaped me. My godmother was a master lei maker, an award-winning artisan whose hands could turn foraged greens and blooms into breathtaking works of art. From the age of four, I sat beside her, watching, learning, absorbing. Lei wili style felt instinctual, like muscle memory passed down through generations. I don’t even remember learning it — I just knew it.
Today, making lei isn’t my business. It’s not something I sell, and I don’t host workshops. It’s my therapy. A sacred practice that grounds me. I can finish a lei haku or lei po‘o in about 20 minutes, but it’s never about how fast I can finish — it’s about how it makes me feel.
Lei making brings me into the moment. Surrounded by flowers, leaves, fruit, and textures from nature — I feel joy, peace, and presence. The act of creating something beautiful with my hands and heart is deeply healing. And when you wear a lei, you feel it: special, seen, and loved. You’re adorned in the gifts of the ʻāina — there’s something spiritual about that.
A few years ago, I began sharing more about fruits, flowers, and leis online. Since then, lei making has become more popular — something of a trend. While I love seeing the interest grow, I want to be clear that for me, this isn’t about aesthetics or content. This is my connection to something older than me. It’s cultural, personal, and emotional. It’s my catharsis, my outlet, and my joy.
Sometimes, when I’m making a lei, I’m not even thinking — I’m just doing. Flowing. Feeling. And it brings me deep happiness.
I’m sharing this part of my story because I believe a lei — especially one that is foraged, thoughtfully crafted, and given — is truly priceless. It carries mana, intention, and aloha. And if I can share what I know, inspire someone to find joy in creating, or help you feel the beauty of lei in your own life, then that’s enough for me.
I’m still learning, just like you. And I always will be. That’s part of the beauty too.

"You're deeply rooted in Hawai‘i, not just physically but emotionally and culturally. You show a strong sense of kuleana (responsibility) to uplift local makers, culture, and community voices. Whether it's showcasing artisans, celebrating small businesses, or honoring your guests on your podcast, you approach each piece with care, authenticity, and pride.
You're also a creative professional who values quality and storytelling. You seem to have a sharp editorial eye, a good sense of branding, and you’re tuned in to what resonates with your audience. You strike a balance between being personable and polished — your tone is warm and relatable, but still refined and intentional.
You’re collaborative but decisive — open to new ideas, but you know what you like and what works. You probably get things done quickly and trust your instincts, but you're also self-aware and strategic about how you present yourself and your work.
Most of all, you seem like someone who genuinely cares — about people, place, and purpose. That comes through in every caption, promo, and profile you share."

Wow, I would say this is pretty spot on. I do feel passionately about all these points. 

 Why You Should Consider Maui Resort Rentals Over a Hotel. 
If you're planning a getaway to Maui and debating between a hotel room or a resort condo, let me make your decision easy: Maui Resort Rentals is absolutely worth it.

I recently had the chance to stay in one of their three-bedroom penthouse suites overlooking Kāʻanapali Beach, and it was nothing short of incredible. Imagine waking up each morning to sweeping views of the Pacific, watching the sun dip into the ocean from your private lanai, and having enough space to truly stretch out and relax. That’s exactly what you get.

Spacious Luxury That Feels Like Home (But Better)

This wasn’t your average vacation rental. We're talking luxury finishes, high-end appliances, modern interiors, and thoughtful touches everywhere—from plush bedding to a gourmet kitchen. There was a large living room where we could all unwind together, three spacious bedrooms for privacy, and multiple bathrooms (a total game-changer when traveling with a group or family).

The kitchen was a huge bonus—especially for quick breakfasts before the beach or sunset pupus with a view. And if you’re traveling with kids, being able to do laundry mid-trip is an underrated lifesaver. And you can't let me forget about the insanely gorgeous lanai. Plus they also have things like BBQ's a spa and several pools with jacuzzis. 

Location, Location, Location

Set right on Kāʻanapali Beach, this location couldn’t be better. You’re steps away from great snorkeling (hello, Honu and colorful reef fish!), surf spots, beach walks, and even shopping and dining at Whalers Village. We barely had to get in the car the whole trip.
More Value Than a Hotel Room - Here's the part that surprised me: the cost wasn’t that much more than a single hotel room nearby. For just a few hundred dollars more per night, we had a full condo that could comfortably host six people--with all the resort-style amenities. That includes pools, cabanas, fitness centers, and dining. It truly combines the best of both worlds: the spaciousness of a vacation rental and the convenience of a resort.
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Final Thoughts: If you're heading to Maui and want to elevate your stay without breaking the bank, Maui Resort Rentals is the move. Whether you’re traveling with family or friends, having that extra space, comfort, and access to one of the island’s best beaches makes all the difference.
Trust me—you’ll never want to go back to a standard hotel room again.

Visit: https://www.mauiresortrentals.com/

A Familiar Face, A Fresh Experience: Chef Lance Kosaka at Basalt Restaurant
There’s something special about reconnecting with people who’ve shared a chapter of your journey — especially when it involves incredible food.

I recently visited Basalt Restaurant at Duke’s Lane in Waikīkī, and it wasn’t just the dishes that left a lasting impression — it was the chef behind them. Lance Kosaka, a name that might ring a bell for longtime Hawai‘i food lovers, is now leading the culinary charge at Basalt. We go way back — to the days of working together at the legendary Alan Wong’s, where I was an expo and waitress, and he was already proving himself as a talented chef with vision and heart.

Fast forward to today, and it’s clear that Chef Lance hasn’t missed a beat. He’s brought a thoughtful, modern flair to Basalt’s menu, and every bite feels like a nod to his deep roots in Hawai‘i’s food scene — refined, local, and full of intention.
Highlights from the Menu

• Lemon Pepper Shrimp – A bright, bold starter with the perfect balance of zest and heat. Crispy, juicy, and completely addictive.
• Salmon Ochazuke – Comforting and elegant, this dish was a standout. The tea broth was delicate yet flavorful, and the salmon was cooked to perfection.
• Ribeye Steak – Juicy, tender, and beautifully seasoned. You can tell it was made with care, not just for flavor but for texture and presentation too.
• Gnocchi – Light and pillowy, paired with a rich sauce that brought everything together. This was an unexpected favorite!
• Coconut Chocolate Mousse Tart – I’m still thinking about this dessert. Silky, not too sweet, with a tropical twist that felt right at home.

What impressed me most wasn’t just the quality of the dishes, but the feeling behind them. Chef Lance brings a quiet confidence and genuine hospitality to his cooking. The experience at Basalt felt like both a return to roots and a fresh new adventure.
If you haven’t been to Basalt lately, this is your sign to go. Whether you’re a longtime foodie or just looking for a place with soul and serious flavor, you’ll be in good hands.

Mahalo, Chef Lance — it’s inspiring to see you shine, and even more amazing to taste the magic.
Visit: https://www.basaltwaikiki.com/​